Assertiveness is associated with behavior that reflects our best interests, “including standing up for oneself without significant anxiety, expressing one’s feelings comfortably, or exercising one’s own rights without denying the rights of others”.

When we lack assertiveness, we find it difficult to stand up for ourselves and assert what we want, need, and feel. And it can manifest in several ways, including excessive agreeableness as well as hostility.

What Being Assertive Looks Like?

<aside> 👉🏽 Give yourself permission.

Say ‘no’ positively.

Be honest.

Refuse the request, not the person.

Be timely.

Find a suitable medium.

Explain why.

Commit to ‘no.’

Have the courage to dream

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<aside> 👉🏽 Keep an open mind

Practice active listening

Continue to grow and learn

Handle mistakes positively

Express your needs

Don’t feel guilty

Stand up for what you believe

Know your rights

Do not confuse assertiveness with aggression

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